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Advice to my early twenties self….

I’ve noticed a few posts on line of people sharing lessons from their early twenties and what they would have told themselves. I thought I’d give it a go as I was curious to see what I’d write.

I am pretty sure if I was presented with this list in my early twenties I would have turned my nose up and done exactly what I wanted, but just encase there are some people in their early twenties that do like to learn from others here’s the list….

Dear Anna in her early twenties.

-Don’t worry about spending an hour in the mirror in the morning perfecting your make-up you’re actually much prettier with less. Less is more! Its true!
-Don’t spend so much money on Estee Lauder face creams, simple works even better on your skin and is £5 rather than £50
-Look after yourself a bit more and stop taking care of your ‘friends’ so much. It’s OK encouraging them and building their confidence but don’t forget you deserve to be built up too.
-Pay more attention to the nice guys that like you instead of going out with arse holes that cheat and make you feel on edge all the time. Not only will it affect you now, the scars come into the future with you and cause you all sorts of emotional problems as you get older. Guys will only use you if you let them, be strong and show them who’s the boss of yourself! YOU!
-If you do eventually go out with a nice guy, be NICE to him and stop trying to sabotage it! (easier said than done, ask for help)
-ASK FOR HELP, ASK FOR HELP, ASK FOR HELP, ASK FOR HELP
-Be curious about your behaviour and thoughts, question things more.
-Stop letting yourself be used, look at your company and see if it brings out the best in you, if it doesn’t, change your company. Friendship is a two way thing.
-Congratulations for quitting jobs that made you unhappy and never settling! Life is to short!
-Congratulations for always speaking your mind and standing your ground in the end!
-Save!!! Save my girl! Even if it’s just £50 or £100 a month, over 10 years that’s a deposit for a house! And trust me, your thirties will come even if you don’t think they will! They will!
-Be nice to your family, have understanding for them, they do their best!
-Try not to get so obsessed with the gym, two hours a day and a diet of a carrot a day makes you ill.
-Go easy on the running, 10 miles a day puts pressure on your knees and you will spend the rest of your life managing the pain and being restricted in the activities you do. Moderation is the key, less is more!
-Cut back on the sunbathing and sun beds. When you get older you will get brown skin pigmentation on your face. A good daily moisturiser with factor 30 in is good.
-Don’t get obsessed with mountain biking and not stretch or look after you core strength! Your back will suffer in the future. Try Pilates once a week, its magical!
-Say ‘No’ more, don’t just agree to things to make others happy. You have no one to please, do what feels good inside for you, no one else lives inside you, so only you have control of it.
-Don’t blame things or people, you are responsible for your actions and how you move forward, we all have weaknesses, it’s how you manage them that counts.
-Learn about yourself, the more you learn about your needs, the more settled life can be.

Most of all, believe in yourself 🙂 and don’t worry if you don’t fit in, it’s a good thing, you’ll know when you find your fit.

Love from Anna in her thirties 🙂 xxx

Chickens, sheep and relationships!

Baaaa, cheep, cheep! I’m not sure what noises chickens make, oh I remember it’s buck, buck! Anyway that’s beside the point, even though I am sure sometimes we can all feel as helpless as a sheep or chicken when it comes to communicating in our relationships!

On Sunday I welcomed Holly Carter from RELATE, Exeter on the show, who among a few other things helps people improve the communication in their relationships.

I think we’ve all done it, had a ‘moment’ or even a few ‘moments’ where you splurge your words out and then cause several ouches to your other half, (Oops!) but deep down you know there is a little more going on behind whats really coming out your mouth…  I’m definitely GUILTY!

In the interview Holly shares a few tips on how we can focus on more positive aspects of our relationships, and how useful it is to take a step back and ask yourself  “whats REALLY going on?”

Holly has also had quite a life change over that last couple of years and I’m pretty sure you will find her inspiring in more ways than one 😉  Take a listen to Holly’s short interview below…

You can catch The Anna Presents.. show every Sunday morning, apart from the first Sunday of the month from 8-10am on Phonic Fm! Exeter dials 106.8Fm and the rest of the world can tune in online at http://www.phonic.fm

And if you like what you hear from Holly, you can find her here – www.relateexeteranddistrict.co.uk

Ps – I had to reassure myself of what noises chickens actually make, so I hopped on the good old You tube and made myself chuckle with this…

Look at how far you’ve come :-) :-)

I’m just sat here gazing out the window looking at the trees, the flowers and the sky, having one of those ‘I am glad to be alive moments’  I had an email a few hours ago from Phil Roberts, he is the community fundraiser at St Loye’s foundation in Exeter.  He sent me a photo of one of the community events I once volunteered at.  It brought memories flooding back, and made me think about how far I have come.

Back in 2010 I quit my ‘safe’ job and went out into the unknown, after a few months of slowly falling down I dragged myself along to a business show and came across St Loye’s foundation, a charity that helped people with disabilities gain confidence and get them into work.  I liked the sound of them and went along to meet Phil and began volunteering.  At the time I began my confidence was at floor level, but slowly, slowly volunteering with them built me back up. 🙂

I found this press release (below) I wrote some time back about the impact volunteering had on my life. I’ve decided I need this stuck on my wall!! There is nothing better than taking your own advice 😉

http://www.exeterexpressandecho.co.uk/Volunteering-helped-right-path/story-13224178-detail/story.html

Thank you so so so much to all the St Loye’s team who played a part in helping me get to where I am today 🙂 and a special thank you to Phil Roberts who will soon be leaving the charity for a new life in Wales!

Take a little look at how far you’ve come today and who’s helped you get there 🙂

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Getting back on the horse! Clip clop ;-)

Hey 🙂

Today I got my butt back in the studio at Phonic FM after having five weeks off! What can I say, I missed it! I saw this lovely quote from Ruby Amanfu (an awesome singer) that said ‘sometimes you’ve got to get away to come back’ and I sooooo get that! I have been doing my show at Phonic for two years now and needed a little freshen up (a break) I have met so many people through the show all that have inspired me massively ! From eight year old children to best selling authors, I have it all on the ‘Anna Presents…’ show!

Todays show theme was ‘Getting back on the horse’  hopefully encouraging the listeners to hop back on, or into something they used to do and for some reason they stopped doing.

So, what did you used to do that you miss? Was it something you did as a child? Do you sing? do you ride? do you paint? or is it time to get back out on the dating scene again 😉 😉 he he 😉 What ever it may be maybe its times to get back out there! 🙂

Here is a summery of todays ‘Anna Presents…’ show on a page…

Show theme – ‘Get back on the Horse’

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Movie of the week – Freaky Friday                                                                                                             freaky fri

Place of the week – Lydford Gorge and Brentor                                                                             bentor

Artist of the week – Newton Faulkner(Tracks – Soon, Pulling teeth and Dream catch me)newton

AND of course Relationship tip of week (from Relate, Exeter) when your partner comes home greet them at the door 🙂 don’t just say hi and continue with what you are doing.

You can catch my show every Sunday apart from the first one of the month from 8-10am on http://www.phonic.fm.  Show recordings will be available soon, but you can catch some of my interviews on my presenting page on the blog 🙂

Byeeeeeeeee xxxx